I’ve been dating this wonderful guy for six months. He just got a promotion requiring him to travel three days a week for the foreseeable future. This means we’ll miss huge chunks of each others’ lives, and I’m afraid we’ll grow apart. Is it possible to stay emotionally connected if you don’t have everyday, in-person contact with your partner? Do you think our relationship has a chance? — Holding Down The Fort In the movies, two people, desperate to be together, overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles so they can live “happily ever after”... and then the house lights come up. What happens the next morning is anyone’s guess — and for good reason. Chasing what you can’t quite have is the fun part. After the drama’s done, then what? Two people, overcome by seemingly insurmountable piles of dirty laundry, struck by the sinking realization that once-charming idiosyncrasies are rapidly morphing into excruciatingly irritating tics? More often than not, it’s all downhill from “happily ever after” — except for a select few. No, not those syrupy types who insist on seeing the best in everyone, but sour cynics who are willing to acknowledge the worst: People shed. People leak. People emit foul odors. This is also true of dogs, but they’re furry and cute, and are easily bribed to perform useful tasks, such as retrieving the newspaper. Many humans, on the other hand, seem incapable of learning to pick up after themselves. They also tend to be dull, annoying, and repetitive. In other words, your boyfriend’s travel schedule might be the best thing that could happen to your relationship: the difference between raging animal attraction and a raging desire to call Animal Control to pry the two-legged pig off your couch. But, you ask, what about the idea that “real” intimacy means sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly? Quite frankly, it’s best if you keep the bad and the ugly to yourself, and slinky up like it’s your first date whenever your boyfriend returns to town. When’s the last time you saw two people who spend all their time together tearing across their living room into each other’s arms? You kiss somebody differently when they aren’t always around. And, like make up sex, “I Miss You” sex is always hotter. To kill off your relationship fast, live in fear that it will end. Granted, it’s hard not to place value on tenure, considering that when people hear you’re in a relationship, the first thing they usually want to know is how many years you are from getting the gold watch. What should matter is how good a relationship is, not how long it lasts. When it stops being good, it should stop lasting. It’s quite possible that there’s no such thing as “happily ever after.” Splendor in the crass My boyfriend of five months is great, except for two things: He chews with his mouth open, and only showers every other day. I’ve told him being clean is a big turn-on for me, but he says he doesn’t mind if I’m “not-so-fresh” — missing my point entirely. How do I let him know his habits are a becoming a real problem without hurting his feelings? — Grossed Out The longer you take to tell him how you feel, the more tempting it will be to tell it exactly as it is: “Want booty? Take a bath, and shut your big, fat, food-filled trap!” Unfortunately, unsolicited criticism tends to be the gateway to Issue-Land. All the other person hears is an invitation to criticize you right back. For best results, buffer your reproach with humor; perhaps by reaching over in a teasingly sexy way, closing his lips with your fingers, then whispering, “No need for a play-by-play of your progress in processing dinner!” Should you opt for a straight verbal approach, disarm him with a long list of his good points. Let’s see ... he’s witty, charming, well-endowed, dangerously handsome, and an artist in bed? In short, he’s everything a woman could want — well, that is, any woman who’s legally blind, and was born without sinuses.